Wedding planners have become adept at spotting potential problems in a marriage; a recent Huffington Post article details the signs that planners say bode well for a successful union:
1. Willingness to compromise.
The ability to compromise instead of insisting everything go your way is crucial to a successful relationship. There will always be disagreements, but if you listen to and respect your partner’s point of view and work with them to meet in the middle, you are more likely to have a healthy marriage.
2. Have your priorities straight.
A wedding lasts a day; a marriage is supposed to last forever. Couples who take minor issues in stride — like rain on their wedding day or other less-than-Pinterest-perfect moments — are built to last better than those who freak out over every little hiccup.
3. Make decisions together.
Working well together as a team while planning your wedding is a hopeful sign of a long-lasting marriage, planners say. Usually one person takes the lead in wedding planning, but if that partner is making all the decisions and the other partner is completely uninvolved, this could mean a couple has not learned to work well together.
4. Be on the same page financially.
One of the largest stressors in marriage is money. Couples who agree on a budget for their wedding and stick to it are likely to fare better in life together than those who disagree over every expense.
5. Present a united front.
Once a couple becomes engaged, it seems like everyone has an opinion about their wedding. Partners who are able to maintain healthy boundaries and have each other’s backs when it comes to overbearing family members are demonstrating the important independence they will need to succeed as a married couple.
6. Have realistic expectations.
Couples that have realistic expectations about a marriage — knowing that every relationship must endure a few bumps along the way — are better prepared to go the distance. If one partner’s expectations are unrealistic, this can bring a lot of stress to a marriage.
7. Know how to have healthy disagreements.
All couples fight, but those who can express their feelings honestly and maturely without yelling or name-calling stand a better chance of having a lasting marriage.
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