No matter how amicable your divorce, there is no question that it will have some sort of effect on your children. They will undoubtedly experience sadness, anger, and worry — many of the same emotions you experienced as well.
After a divorce, it is not uncommon for the noncustodial parent to drift away — especially if they move or remarry. Your children need both parents, so you may need to work a little harder to maintain your place in their lives. Here are some tips on staying connected if you live far away from your kids:
Ask their preferences for staying in touch. Kids’ preferences for communication can depend a lot on their age. Teens typically prefer texts or Facetime. Younger children may prefer a phone call. When it comes to spending time with them, ask if they prefer you travel to them or if they want to come to you — or maybe they’d like to travel with you to a mutually agreed upon destination.
Be consistent. You should set a regular time to call or Facetime with your children, taking into consideration their schedules. Try your best to never miss a call.
Keep your children’s needs in mind. Your children’s needs and schedules change as they grow older, and it can be stressful for them to maintain these as they move between two households. Be understanding of their time.
Be spontaneous. If your children are on social media, post funny memes or photos you know they’d like on their pages. Text them just to say you are thinking about them. Send cards with positive messages telling them how much you are looking forward to seeing them again, or wishing them luck with an upcoming competition or test.
Include their friends. Include your children’s friends in certain activities or events like going to a movie or camping or even for a weekend getaway. Friends are usually who your children will turn to when they want to express their feelings about the divorce.
When you are faced with an important life decision regarding a key family relationship, the advice and assistance of an experienced family law attorney often prove crucial to your understanding of the issues involved and your satisfaction with the ultimate outcome of your family law matter. Contact us today for your free consultation.
