There are many reasons that marriages fail. Even if you and your partner have done all you can to make things work, sometimes divorce is inevitable. And when that’s the case, you should want your divorce to go as smoothly as possible, especially if there are children involved. Here are some tips on accomplishing your goal:
Build a good support system. You will experience feelings of sadness, anger and loss, so finding a good support network of friends, family and even professional advisors is important to help you cope. Avoid people who continually stoke bad feelings about your ex; although it may feel good to have a venting partner, you really need to spend time with people who will help you move on rather than cling to the past.
Educate yourself about divorce. Knowledge is power, so take the time to educate yourself about your rights in a divorce. If there are children involved, learn about what you can do to protect your parental rights as well as strategies for helping your children cope with your divorce.
Find a reasonable attorney. Choose a divorce lawyer who will not only advocate for your rights, but one that will also work toward a reasonable solution so that the divorce process does not drag on indefinitely. Don’t be afraid to ask about costs; a good lawyer will tell you what you can expect to pay and the likely outcome of your case based on the facts and his or her experience.
Work on how to parent together. If nothing else, your children should be a good reason for you and your soon-to-be ex to figure out how to get along and work together on a good parenting plan. While divorce can be traumatic for children, research has shown that they typically adjust well within two years. You can make this transition easier for your children if you all work together on figuring out a routine that will work well for everyone.
Take care of yourself. Carve out some time for yourself to do the things you like to do. Try new activities, exercise, and eat right. Join a support group or spend time with friends and family who will provide you with the comfort you need at this difficult time.
By handling cases with the dignity and respect they deserve, we have helped many families in New Jersey civilly resolve their divorce, rebuild a satisfying life, and confidently step into the next chapter of their lives. Contact us today for your free consultation.
