Not every split has to be handled in court; in fact, you can save yourself time, stress, and money by agreeing to mediate. Mediation helps you work things out in a more flexible, informal setting, and usually results in better outcomes for both sides if you are committed to the process.
Here are some tips on how to succeed in divorce mediation:
Choose the right mediator. You and your spouse should choose a mediator you both feel comfortable with discussing intimate details of your lives together. He or she will need to have your trust in order to reach the best possible agreement for your family.
Invest the time. Choose a day and time for mediation meetings where you won’t be rushed so you can focus on the mediation.
Ask questions. Be sure to ask questions so you clearly understand the decisions you are making.
Don’t agree right away. It’s OK to take some time to consider your position on an issue. If you need time to think something over, say that.
Be fair. Getting to a successful divorce settlement is about compromise on everyone’s part. It helps if you can keep your focus on a good outcome for everyone.
Take your time. Mediation can last as long as it takes for you to develop a workable plan for you and your family.
Be prepared. You will probably be discussing finances, so you need to be sure you have a true picture of your assets and debts.
Be comfortable. Mediation is an informal process, so wear clothing that you are comfortable in so you can feel relaxed.
Think before speaking. Mediation provides you with the opportunity to say things that need to be said, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t watch how you say it.
Know your rights. Couples participating in mediation typically have their own attorneys there to assist them with understanding the legal ramifications of the decisions being made. Be sure you know your legal rights before you go into mediation by talking with your attorney.
It is important that you do not wait too long to retain an attorney when you are facing a family law issue. Delays can cost you valuable legal rights, and you want to make sure that you have the advice and support you need to make the best decisions for you and your family long after the divorce settlement is reached. Contact us today for your free consultation.
